I get have way through the XP install I get the blue screen of death with a memory dump error .... I restart my pc ...
When I attempt to play any graphical game (T:V or AA) every 15-20 seconds my video freezes and I cant move / do anything for 5-10 seconds ....
I had problems similar to these when building mine. Instead of down-clocking the RAM to make it more stable go into the BIOS and bump the voltage to your RAM up ONE increment. That should stablize it nicely. Like I said... ONE increment. I'm betting it's on auto right now?
And as for your second problem... Did you ever successfully install Windoze without the BSOD? BSOD during Windoze install=BAD, very bad. I had to keep re-installing Windoze until I got through it without the BSOD for a good, solid, stable install. Well, as solid and stable as Windoze can be anyway...

It can cause all kinds of unexplaiable problems if your OS is corrupt.
Sorry to hear about your troubles...

Good luck!
PS-I have a Soyo mobo and some other gamer friends of mine have noted that they are notoroious for slightly under-powering components. I hope this was helpful.
PPS-This is all from my limited experience! This is what works for me! Everybody has an opinion, take them all with a grain of salt and use your own judgement. I hope it helps you, should you decide to try it.
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Oh crap... didn't read the second page. Killboy = n008.

You already got it fixed... Heck, I'll just leave this here anyway...